realli hav 2 depend on ur plannin 4 d future......
bt there's dis kind of ppl becoz of $$, put weddin aside until save enuff $$....
bt it wun be 4ever la coz either 1 of u sure get tired n wanna settle dwn...

hhmm... how to define financial status?? i will think it depends on individual... what the couple needs to achieve before they feel comfortable?? if the lady doesn't mind being together without a cert then it's ok.. but if she minds, then it's not nice to make her hang on for so many years... afterall, one will like to "seek a harbour and dock.."

6yrs plus... not too long.. not too short either... long enough to see all the habits of each other and defnitely have passed the honeymoon period.. if all is stable.. should be ok to go on forever ah..

bt most of d she will wan to dock... dun wan stay out in the waters 4 2 long :)

But what if your partner is already mid 30s and you are coming 30s? Men can wait but women cant...
Ever heard of this saying: When men reaches 30s, their value went up and when women reaches 30 thier value depreciate".....

Sometime marriage is not always on $$, both parties gona compromise and help up, then you can have a better live....Is not by saying and nothing is done. SO this is still back to square one...

You still have to think of the factor of giving birth....etc....

But what if your partner is already mid 30s and you are coming 30s? Men can wait but women cant...
Ever heard of this saying: When men reaches 30s, their value went up and when women reaches 30 thier value depreciate".....

Sometime marriage is not always on $$, both parties gona compromise and help up, then you can have a better live....Is not by saying and nothing is done. SO this is still back to square one...

You still have to think of the factor of giving birth....etc....

But what if your partner is already mid 30s and you are coming 30s? Men can wait but women cant...
Ever heard of this saying: When men reaches 30s, their value went up and when women reaches 30 thier value depreciate".....

Sometime marriage is not always on $$, both parties gona compromise and help up, then you can have a better live....Is not by saying and nothing is done. SO this is still back to square one...

You still have to think of the factor of giving birth....etc....

I think I'll suggest to my partner that we can ROM and do away with the rest. ROM only costs $26 for online registration and a small token for the solemniser (min $28, as stated in ROM website - but it's really up to the individual). Rings are optional.

As for staying together, can stay in one of our houses, only if either of us has our own room in parents' place. Else rent a place and save up for own place.

Wow.. Similar to my case... Bf hitting mid 30s and I'm hitting 30 soon.

I agree with animelover.

To me a wedding dinner is not necessary as I need not tell the "Whole World" I am marry...A ROM is good enough to give a woman a status. Being together for so long and not giving your love one a status is pretty bad.

frankly, a good talk between a couple is always the best option out... definitely can come up with something that the 2 parties agree?? if even just ROM and the guy is not agreeable, then dump him for goodness sake. that fellow is not worth the time.

angie fierce sia... :)

If dumping a relationship is like dumping rubbish, I will be glad. But it is not easy to dump someone you love. Easy to say hard to do it.

Your partner may have his own reason and problem as well. I cant only be thinking for myself.

Piggy: I too agree with Angie28. It's better to talk it out and sort all these matters/issues. You might be able to find out the main reasons why the partner is not willing to settle down. If it's because of financially unstable, both must make efforts to manage finances once settled down. But if s/he uses this as an excuse, then I think it's time to move on.

Our parents' time, I dun think many of them were financially stable when they got married. At least not for mine.

Relationship is really givng human being problem...When you dont have it, you long to have one. When you have it, is full of "SHIT"...

true.. but wat r the reasons and problems and r those really "reasons" and "problems" or his own selfishness?? i dunno the whole story here so am generalising things.. hope u dun mind.

of course it's not easy to dump a relationship.... somemore, it has been 6yrs+.. but must think.. true.. dump him now.. u will hurt.. like.. maybe.. for the next one year or 2... wun that be better than being hurt ur entire life and when u're old... regret about it?

time heals... and it really depends on the individual too.. if one is those kind where keeps thinking abt -ve tings.. i will tink.. it is difficult oso..

my cousin ended her 7 years relationship with her bf.. she is a strong woman.. she has since moved on.. what she needed wat time to clear her mind.. and plan, what she wants next.

piggy... sounds like u r talkin abt urself....
I would say couples need 2 realli tink 4 themself wher were they be headin in d futre..... family, kids
Do they want to live like being individual rather den together.....??

I do agree with what you say Angie.

My partner is someone who does not like to talk too much and he is always keeping quiet. What he say is only financially unstable as I am still paying for my study loans...Maybe I am just too -ve or perhaps I have no guts to let go...

BINGO FT, I am feeling moody and wish to seek some advise cos I dont like to talk to my friends over all these issues. Like to keep things to myself...

Piggy.. how long u been wif ur bf??
Did u brin up d topic of settle down?? Hw mani times??
Did he shrug aside like wat u say ???
Mind to ask wat's he workin as ??