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What are the deciding factors to be a Stay At Home Mom
Last Post 25 Jul 2008 11:19 AM by garfieldpal. 63 Replies.
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belyl
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| 13 May 2008 02:28 PM |
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What are the factors that you consider before mothers give up their full time job and stay at home to care for their kids.
Do you consider your family financial needs?
Can you still re-enter the workforce again after being at SAHM for yrs? Is it easy to re-enter the workforce at an older age like in ur 40s?
What other factors do u consider before decided to just quit and be there for your kid?
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lieblingsg
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| 13 May 2008 02:29 PM |
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Was it Today paper which wrote that SAHM mum shd earn S$40k? Actually I disagree. |
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belyl
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| 13 May 2008 02:32 PM |
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Posted By lieblingsg on 05/13/2008 02:29:23 PM
Was it Today paper which wrote that SAHM mum shd earn S$40k? Actually I disagree.
it was in Sunday Times (11 May 2008). A 2 page feature. some of those interviewed said that being a SAHM is priceless. There's no price tag to it. They did it out of love for their kids
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night_blooming_jazmine
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| 13 May 2008 02:35 PM |
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i disagree too..spending time with ur kids is not a wasted time...being SAHM is not being selfish....its being selfless. |
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sunnymushy
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| 13 May 2008 02:38 PM |
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any SAHF here?? |
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lieblingsg
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| 13 May 2008 02:40 PM |
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You dont put a dollar value to rearing children. Just because fathers dont stay at home does not mean they care less and their love and affection does not count. The whole act of going out there to provide for the entire family is also an act of love and downright selfless. |
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Matt0000123
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| 13 May 2008 02:47 PM |
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Posted By lieblingsg on 05/13/2008 02:29:23 PM
Was it Today paper which wrote that SAHM mum shd earn S$40k? Actually I disagree.
I think the Sunday Times article said $230k.
Wa, closing in on lawyers' salary already...
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lieblingsg
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| 13 May 2008 02:52 PM |
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Matt. Lawyers earn more. |
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Matt0000123
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| 13 May 2008 02:55 PM |
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I think everyone will agree that it is very important to spend as much time as possible to take care of kids. But if you give up your job, you are giving up half the household income. Lifestyle would have to change - less restaurants, less facial, less clothes and shoes. Not only your own lifestyle would have to change. You may not be able to give the best to your kids in terms of material wise, e.g. you may not be able to send your kids to the expensive enrichment classes, buy the expensive books and toys for your kids, or bring your kids to countries far away for holidays. So it is a big sacrifice. That is why not many mothers (and fathers too) are willing to take the sacrifice.
But having said that, if you and your hubby think that spending as much time as possible with your kids is more important than any material sacrifice, then go ahead and do it. |
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Matt0000123
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| 13 May 2008 02:56 PM |
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I know they earn more lah, esp. those that are famous and have 16 years of work experience...
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bluemoon
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| 13 May 2008 02:57 PM |
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nothing beats at watching your kids grow up....especially u noe dat u have played a big part in their growing up process....feels like u have obtained a great achievement and no amount of $ can buy that.
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lieblingsg
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| 13 May 2008 03:03 PM |
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Matt: Of course I dont earn as much as my Boss but those guys, they swim in money. |
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lieblingsg
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| 13 May 2008 03:04 PM |
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And I am forsaking a chance to be like them by quitting. Becos, to me there is more to life than $$Kerching$$! |
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Matt0000123
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| 13 May 2008 03:05 PM |
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Posted By lieblingsg on 05/13/2008 03:03:38 PM
Matt: Of course I dont earn as much as my Boss but those guys, they swim in money.
Of course lah. That is why our Govt wants to benchmark Ministers' pay with your bosses.
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Matt0000123
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| 13 May 2008 03:12 PM |
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Posted By sunnymushy on 05/13/2008 02:38:21 PM
any SAHF here??
Ya, what do you think of SAHF? The sacrifice is even greater right, given the social stigma in Singapore's conservative society.
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belyl
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| 13 May 2008 03:12 PM |
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Posted By Matt0000123 on 05/13/2008 02:55:06 PM
I think everyone will agree that it is very important to spend as much time as possible to take care of kids. But if you give up your job, you are giving up half the household income. Lifestyle would have to change - less restaurants, less facial, less clothes and shoes. Not only your own lifestyle would have to change. You may not be able to give the best to your kids in terms of material wise, e.g. you may not be able to send your kids to the expensive enrichment classes, buy the expensive books and toys for your kids, or bring your kids to countries far away for holidays. So it is a big sacrifice. That is why not many mothers (and fathers too) are willing to take the sacrifice.
But having said that, if you and your hubby think that spending as much time as possible with your kids is more important than any material sacrifice, then go ahead and do it.
which is also why I am deciding if I should do a trade off on the quality of lifestyle with the amt of time spent with my kid. At this moment I would say he has quite a good amt of quality time from me. In the mornings he's in sch. Then it's lunch then bath and play a bit before napping till 430. Then my dad would get him to do his homework and then it's dinner time. When I am back I would spend time with him like going thru his other hw, read to him, play with him etc. Anyway I think I need to discuss this with hubby too. He is not for the idea that I stay at home. haha.... cos we still have loans to clear
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belyl
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| 13 May 2008 03:14 PM |
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Posted By Matt0000123 on 05/13/2008 03:12:16 PM
Posted By sunnymushy on 05/13/2008 02:38:21 PM
any SAHF here??
Ya, what do you think of SAHF? The sacrifice is even greater right, given the social stigma in Singapore's conservative society.
I salute SAHF. Their sacrifice is even greater than a SAHM. The wife have to be understanding enuff that the hubby is also helping to contribute to the family in another way other than bringing home the bacon. But society here in general are not so receptive of SAHF.
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hyacinthus
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| 13 May 2008 03:15 PM |
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Looks like to be a SAHM, there're dilemmas.
1) Want to spend more time with kids
2) No income to buy kids toys / books or bring them on overseas holidays. (can only source from hubby)
Solution?
1) Freelance work that doesn't take up too much of your time and at the same time offers you a decent amount of money to buy stuff for your kids and maybe yourself
2) Plan way in advance. Find a man that can provide for you and kids before getting married.
3) Be some kind of boss where you get a steady stream of income benefiting from your worker's hard work. |
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Matt0000123
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| 13 May 2008 03:16 PM |
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Anyone here got friends who are SAHF? Can share their experience?
Maybe Sunny and I can consider becoming a SAHF also...
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firesong
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| 13 May 2008 03:19 PM |
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SAHF got one more issue: Face problem. There might be people even though open minded, but still cannot accept this concept. Older generation would have more issues on this probably. |
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